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Mum Vs Teething Baby! 5 Things You Need!

 

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Teething! Brace yourselves!!

Fraser is 19 weeks old now and most definitely teething! Drowning in dribble! Lots of grizzles. Rosy cheeks. A not so smiley Bubba! Well I have compiled a small list of things I recommend you have to hand when you have a teething Baby!!

 

1.  Toys to chew on!!

sophie la girafe

We have a Sophie the Giraffe teether toy which Fraser has taken a real shine to. He smiles when he sees her face! It is very cute! He has no qualms about shoving her head in his dribble filled face and chowing down! Its a great toy as it is easily washable and very durable. These are so popular and I can see why. We have a few other teething toys too, including fabric toys with chewable plastic sections for teething. Sophie is by far Frasers favourite though. Have PLENTY of teething toys available for baby. They can actually soothe the gums and gently help the teeth to break through when ready.

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2. Plenty of Bibs/ Muslin Cloths

Now when I was pregnant with Fraser I bought a packet of 3 Muslin cloths. Then I bought some more, then when he was born I got another pack! Muslin overload? Too much? God no! I am so glad I bought as many as I did especially as Fraser has colic and reflux! They have been an absolute saviour! I never used these with my older children but I could make do with just bibs for them as they were never sick! Come to think of it I don’t remember them dribbling as much as Fraser does either. Muslin cloths are a MUST have!! I have 2 in my changing bag at all times. Fraser does wear a bib some of the time but I do prefer Muslins. Dribble bibs are definitely good to have too. In fact I don’t think you could have too many of those either.

 

3. Spare Clothes

These you’d probably have with you anyway incase of a leaky nappy or poo explosion! Don’t you just love those?! Eww! Maybe pop in an extra set just incase. I have found Fraser has been soaking through bibs, then t-shirt/ sleep suit  and vest. Honestly I cannot emphasise enough how much dribble comes out of my child! Definitely pack extra, it is better to have too much than not enough!

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4. Teething Gel

Teething gel is another definite MUST have item! There are a few out there but we have found that Dentinox the most effective for Fraser. We actually used this with our other two children too. It can be reapplied if necessary every 20 minutes. Others which must be a bit stronger can only be applied every 3 hours. It must be so painful for them when those teeth are coming through. This gel definitely relieves a bit of the pain for our Bubba. I take it with us wherever we go. There are powders and granules too for teething, I’ve never used them personally as discovered the gel first and that works well for us.

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5. Nappy Rash Cream

Now I know this sounds like an odd one but Sudocrem is great if they get sore from dribble. Fraser manages to get dribble right underneath his chin. Right in a fold of chub. It can get really red and sore and I just put a bit of sudocrem on and it is right as rain! Sudocrem is magic cream to me! It can be used for so many different things and works wonders.  Again this is probably something you’d have with you most of the time anyway so it’s just an added bonus that it can help with soreness too.

 

What are your must-haves for a teething baby?

 

 

 

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Autism and the Summer Holidays

As the Summer Holidays draw to a close I’m taking a look back at how Xavier has found them.

 

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We haven’t done a huge amount these holidays to be honest. It’s really hard. Izzy prefers to be out and about doing things. She is old enough to do this with her friends now though. Xavier much prefers to be at home where there is an iPad and WiFi!! Its dreadful really… what do I do? Cut myself in half? I feel like I have really let the kids down this summer. We have had a few days out. Not as many as I’d have liked but at least we managed a few. We have spent a few days with family too which has been nice. Xavier has a fear of dogs and all of the family bar a couple of people have them now. My sister around the corner from us has one too but Xavier is getting better every time at coping with being around the dog. It’s so hard for him and I don’t force him into the situation but he does want to spend time with his cousins (especially on their birthdays) so he copes. Just.

One in particular to Brighton. We met up with a few friends and had an incredibly windy walk to the seafront. The kids loved playing on the beach. Xavier really didn’t want to go home. It has been tough because I also have a colicky/refluxy baby to consider now too so for the best part of the holidays we have been at home. He loves his baby brother so very much and is so good with him. Look at them together. I love this picture so much! You can tell they are brothers can’t you!

 

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So as the end of the holidays have drawn closer, I have noticed that Xavier has become more edgy. He has been asked by various people if he is looking forward to going back to school? Looking forward to being a Secondary Student? He has always laughed and said Ewww No!!! He does love his school and although he is staying in the same building, he will be upstairs, will have a female teacher for the 1st time in years, there will be a couple of new people in his class, so there are NEW things going on. New things to get his head around. He is 95% a very placid boy. Over the last few weeks we have had a few mini meltdowns. For reasons sometimes unknown.

 

 

So tomorrow is D-Day! First day of Secondary education. I cannot believe how grown up Xavier is. He is so polite, well spoken and intelligent, it is like talking to an adult when conversing with him. I’m really proud of him for everything he has to deal with. It must be really hard for him. I’d love to spend a day inside his head. I bet it is manic in there!

 

A new school year begins, lets see what is in store! He has gone to bed as calm as you like this evening. I hope it will be like that in the morning…. I’ll let you know!

 

 

 

 

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Fighting the feelings.

The chesty pains when I leave the house..

Feeling like people are looking at me..

The desperation to get out of that queue in the local grocery store because its all too much..

The need to get back to MY home and my comfortable surroundings..

The desire to get the hell away from hustle and bustle of people going about their lives..

The suffocating feeling that the world is closing in around you.

 

I have had these feelings before, many times, over the years. I can sense them right in the far depths of my being and I refuse to let them bombard me. I absolutely will not be brought down by these feelings. I refuse to let them consume me or beat me.

Depression is such an evil and misunderstood illness.  Anxiety is soul destroying and life consuming.

I hate it because I have no reason to feel “down” … my life is grand. I have three beautiful children who bring me so much joy, a husband who loves me dearly and is my rock and a great support network of friends and family… yet still the black cloud is starting to form in the distance and is heading for me. Why, when your life is happy, busy, full of love, do these feelings still start to take over?

Why does it make you feel uncomfortable to leave your own home? I feel secure and wrapped in my safety blanket indoors and start to feel terror, thinking about leaving the house. Why?

The recognition of these feelings lingering is scary. I’ve been here before and don’t particularly want to be there again. I have a baby and 2 older children to focus on. A renewal of vows to focus on. A blog to write. I have plenty of distractions. Distraction is needed.

I can do this. Focusing on all the good that is going on around me. Not letting the dark cloud reach me and take over my world. That cloud needs to disperse and not return.

I can beat this. I am focused.

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Spectrum Sunday
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Baby is 4 Months Old

 

 

Fraser is now 4 months old! WOW!!

 

The colic/reflux and tongue/lip tie has got no further really. We had a referral from our Health Visitor for a lip/tongue tie assessment. That wasn’t hugely successful as we were told he does have tongue tie but it isn’t severe enough to do anything about plus he is over the 16 week threshold so if it needed doing he would have to be put under anaesthetic to do so. The nurse we saw at this appointment also thinks he has tummy issues and chased up our Paediatric Appointment. We have a date… 22nd September. So a fair wait but I just hope it is productive when it does come around. We already feel like we have been thrown from pillar to post. Fingers crossed!

 

 

Fraser is now drinking 8oz bottles every 4 hours. He has 4 in  day and sleeps 10-12 hours through the night!! How marvellous is that?! We are so very blessed to have had 3 children who sleep well.

 

Last Friday at 17 weeks exactly he weighed 17b 12oz. So he has gained which is good as he had started to lose weight. He is on 95th percentile and is doing really well weight wise. He is now mostly in 6-9 month clothing too! The 3-6  months wardrobe is getting a bit snug.

 

 

There are a few toys that he has taken a shine to. A rattle giraffe that he can get his chubby little hand around and shake the life out of.  A playmat/gym that has entertained all 3 of our children now. It is 15 years old now and still in fab condition! I didn’t realise we still had it until Ed was up in the loft not long after Bubs was born. He loves having a sleep on there as well as batting all the hanging toys around!

 

 

Frasers personality is really starting to shine through. He’s such a happy smiley bubba. He honestly brings such joy! We have had  one successful roll over from back to belly and he keeps trying bless him but gets frustrated when the arm underneath him gets in the way. The voice has been found too! Lots and lots of screeching and shouting! It is most amusing!

 

The teething has started too so we should take out shares in Bonjela and Dentinox gel as well as Muslin cloths and bibs!! Fraser is a dribble monster! His hands are always in his mouth! Nom nom!

 

So Fraser is doing really well, he is a happy chappy and brings lots of love and laughter to our lives!! I’m thinking ahead already to christmas and thinking that he may be crawling by then and the christmas tree may sound more time on the deck than upright and it will be a game of pull the baubles off the tree! Haha! I cannot wait! Baby’s first christmas! So exciting!!

 

Check back next month for our 5 Month update!!

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Heading into GCSE Territory

So our beautiful eldest and only daughter, almost 15 years old,  is heading into GCSE territory… about to start back in Year 10! Where the real hard work begins. Options are chosen and the next 2 years will probably be quite stressful at times. She’s panicking already!

“Mum!! We have to learn and remember 15 different poems!”

Wow! I don’t envy her at all. I was rubbish at learning! I was rubbish at school. My GCSE results reflected that, I wasn’t interested in school and I fully regret not paying more attention and knuckling down. I have since studied a few courses and really enjoyed them but I suppose the difference being as an adult student I have chosen what subjects I want to learn about. She has chosen her three options for GCSE and they are Art, P.E and French. She is feeling the pressure already and they aren’t even back to school yet! I think there is a lot of pressure on the kids these days but as I have said to Izzy, as long as she does her best then I will be proud of her as you can’t do any better than that.

 

I’ve recently found out about Education Quizzes! This is a site with quizzes for ALL children of all ages. The quizzes are aimed at all key stages including GCSE and can aid revision too which I think is a fantastic idea! The quizzes are actually written by teachers and the main objective is to help children to be successful at school. I will be sharing this with Izabel as she is petrified of revision and being able to remember everything she needs to. I will help her as much as I can as will her Dad, but anything that can make the process fun in anyway has to be a bonus. I wish they had these kinds of things around when I took my exams 20+ years ago! Gosh that makes me feel so old!!

 

She has just under 2 years until the main GCSEs take place but will have mock exams before that. I just want her to have confidence in herself and her abilities as she is incredibly bright and talented and I know that she will do well and will go very far in whatever direction she chooses to take!

 

Art work credit to Izzy Aiston.

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Renewing our Vows

 

Ed and I met and got together in October 2001! Yes that is almost 16 years together!! That is such a long time to spend with someone! It has been awesome and it has been horrible at times. He won’t mind me saying it and will agree. We have had some very tough times over the years but here we still are going strong.  Three months we had been together when we found out I was pregnant with our first child! Oops! Not planned no but seen as we didn’t know each other very well at that point I was petrified that he would do a runner and I’d be a single parent. Quite the opposite! He was over joyed to find out he was going to be a Daddy! We got a lot of stick from people thinking it was too soon/ things wouldn’t last…. HAHA! Here we are!

We’ve gone on to have 2 more children since and he really is the most awesome Daddy! He isn’t around a huge amount of the time because he works, he works his arse off in fact! Ed has just achieved 15 years service at his job closely followed by a promotion! I am so proud of him for that. He really deserves it. He NEVER takes time off sick even when really is poorly.

So June 2008 we tied the knot, it was a very small affair but was beautiful. We had our 2 children with us and a handful of family and friends. Next year we will be celebrating 10 years of marriage and have decided to renew our vows and this time around we will have our THREE children with us. Our family is complete now and we are stronger than we ever have been so decided it was the perfect time to do it.

 

I loved my dress so much and had so many wonderful comments on it. Truly felt like a princess. I don’t have my dress anymore but would no way fit into it if I did!

 

Collectively we don’t have a huge income so our wedding day was only ever going to be a small affair but that suits us! We don’t have a huge circle of friends to invite to a sit down meal at a fancy venue so we would never have had a celebration like that even if we could afford it. Its just not us.

 

Our Wedding Day was all done on a budget … just over £1000 for the whole day. We are hoping to do the renewal day on the same kind of budget or less really if we can. So the ceremony is already booked at the Registry Office. On our actual 10th Wedding Anniversary but that is as far as we have got so far! I have until June next year and I have spent hours if not days completely lost in Pinterest trying to get some ideas. Seen so many wonderful things I don’t know where to start!

It is likely there may be a series of “Planning” Posts as we head towards our second big day! I can’t wait to share with you. I’m so looking forward to the day and exchanging vows again knowing how far we have come in our relationship, knowing how much our love has grown, how many obstacles we have swerved along our journey! I love this man so very much and am very proud to be his Wife!

 

 

 

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Why is it so difficult?

So difficult to get someone to listen? For 14 weeks I have been backwards and forward to the doctors I can’t even tell you how many times! Fraser is 16 weeks old today!

At 2 weeks old we went initially… must be reflux, try Gaviscon. Worked for 3 days then the copious amounts of vomit appeared again. Went back… could be an intolerance…. try this Cows Milk Free formula…. didn’t make a difference. Go back again…. try gaviscon… worked for 3 days and caused major constipation. In all this time too along side the vomiting after almost every feed, Fraser was screaming for hours on end most afternoons/ evenings. So distressing for everyone. Nothing I do comforts him.

Go back again to an out of hours appointment at the hospital. Doctor wasn’t listening, he was referring to Fraser as a SHE and asked me about 4 times if Gaviscon was working. If Gaviscon was working I wouldn’t be sat there! Idiot! He gave me a prescription for Ranitidine, didn’t explain properly how to use it and told me the hospital pharmacy would explain when they dispense it. Took it to the hospital pharmacy and they told me they couldn’t dispense it as it was a green prescription and not a white one. By this point I was more than a little bit cross and was pulling my hair out.

 

Spoke to a GP at my surgery again on the phone a few days after that who was fairly helpful, wrote a new prescription for Ranitidine and explained how to use it. So I picked up the prescription took it to my chemist and they dispensed it but told me that they didn’t have any 1ml syringes which I would need to administer the meds to Fraser! He told me I will have to go round other chemists to see if they had any and he didn’t know when they were getting anymore in stock! Luckily my Mum got one from her local pharmacy! Bloody useless!

 

Ranitidine wasn’t making an ounce of difference. A couple of conversations with friends on Facebook and they mentioned Tongue Tie…. hmmmm my other 2 didn’t have this, I didn’t know what to look for…surely a professional would have picked this up!? I took a picture of under his top lip and it was impossible to get an under the tongue one so videoed 10 seconds in his mouth when he was crying. One of my friends said she had diagnosed plenty of lip and tongue tie in her career and was very sure Fraser had both! A few others who saw commented saying that their babies had this and Frasers looked very similar.

So we booked in to see another GP at my surgery. I explained everything AGAIN from the beginning, about all the meds not working, about the possibility of Lip and Tongue Tie and she looked under his tongue and said oh it can’t be that, he has good tongue movement. Then went to take her gloves off, I said “can you look at his lip too please” She looked and just said hmmm I don’t know. I just burst into tears at this point. So bloody frustrated. I said about feeling like no-one is taking me seriously and I feel like I keep being fobbed off with meds, different milks, Ive tried comfort milk too and that made no difference. I think she was a bit taken aback by my tears. She felt his tummy. She said all seems ok but will refer us to the paediatricians as something can’t be right with all the vomiting and screaming. So she has referred for “Tummy Issues” … nothing to do with lip or tongue tie!!

 

Now we have also noticed that Fraser is losing weight. This is worrying. So I took him to see the Health Visitor as I had done the last couple of weigh ins at home. On the 19th June he was last weighed “properly” and he weighed 16lb 6oz. and then yesterday on 17th August he weighed 17b 1oz. I had weighed him in at 18lb in between that time but how accurate my scales are I don’t know. But regardless of my recordings, 11oz gain in 2 months is not right. Babies should be gaining 1-2 lbs a month.Fraser hasn’t gained 1lb in 2 months. Health visitor advised to come back next week to weigh in again on her scales and we will see from there. She also checked his tongue and lip and is sending us for an assessment for that. FINALLY!! Thank you!! How bloody hard was that?

 

So I will keep you posted on any updates but I have such a headache from it all, I am so stressed out. Things can only get better right?

 

 

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The Parenting Struggle is Real!

Today…. it really is! Today I cannot win at parenting. I feel like its all out of my control. That makes me feel shit.

I really am not one for making out my life is perfect. It is far from being doused in the smell of roses!! I generally am a happy person, very laid back and quite care free. But today I do care, today I am not feeling laid back…. today feels like a huge pus filled zit on the arse of parenting!

 

My poor baby boy is very unsettled indeed with his colic and reflux issues and no amount of Mummy love or cuddles is settling or comforting him. All I want to do is help him and take his pain away but today is not letting that happen. I long for the day that he grows out of this. It is not an inconvenience at all…. I just want him to not suffer. I just want to not witness him bright red in the face screaming the house down and not being able to help him. I hate it! I hate Colic and Reflux!

 

My older 2 kids seem to have found a whole load of hate for each other. They have always been so close! It breaks my heart. It is such petty crap they argue over too. They literally cannot be in the same room as each other for longer than 2 minutes before all hell breaks loose! I hate it!! What has happened to their relationship?! I cannot win at that either. I do not take sides, I tell them both they are as bad as each other which they are and I get accused of taking sides. I get accused of like the other more than them. I am wrong because I’m not backing either of them. If they had valid arguments then I would but “Mum…. he/she breathed in my direction” is not valid. It’s ridiculous. I am sick of listening to it and I just want them to get along. Having to tell 2 of my children that if they can’t stand each other then don’t communicate or go near each other is AWFUL. Its awful because I have seen these two be so close, have so much fun, laugh together. Where did it all go so wrong? It’s daily! I hate it!!

 

So today is pants quite frankly! I feel like a rubbish mother because I can’t control these crappy things that are going on! How do I make things better? How do I get them to like each other again?

 

Bring on tomorrow!! Tomorrow is a new day!

 

 

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Top Must-Haves for New Parents

Must have items for when you have a new baby?? What would be top of your list?? It’s not cheap this parenting malarkey but I think there are certain things that really do need to be bought to help out!!

I asked some lovely bloggers their thoughts plus have added my own in too….

“Ours is the Snuza Hero Monitor as our second son has silent reflux which causes apnea. It just clips on the nappy to be in contact with the skin. It’s been a god send for reassurance for us as it made me so paranoid.” Emma from Ready, Freddie, Go! 

 

“A tumble dryer as you will never do as much washing as you do with a newborn and you need it to dry quickly!” Kelly from The Best Version of Kelly

“A compact Stroller that lies completely flat. Perfect for having in the car for when the pram isn’t needed.” Lyndsay from My Family of Roses

 

“Car seat bases! They were an absolute god send when my twins were tiny, especially with the British weather – no one wants to be faffing with seatbelt in the rain.” Beth from Twinderelmo

 

“Jumperoo for when they are a bit older, my youngest loved it from about 4 months… was a godsend.” Rachel from Blogging Mummy

 

“Fisher Price Newborn to Toddler Rocker, it’s the only thing my son would settle in when he first came home from hospital. We got 2 years use out of it and it was used daily!” Jenni from Chilling with Lucas

I have to add we have one of these too and Fraser loves it. It can be set to rock mode or sturdy laid back mode which he spends a lot of time in sleeping in the day time.

“There are lots of baby books out there but I swear by Jo Tantum ‘Baby Secrets’ which combines the best advice from all camps (routine Vs no routine). She’s helped me have kids that have proper nap times on a regular basis which is essential for staying sane as parents!!” Jodie from Maidenhead Mum

 

“A sling or baby carrier. They let you keep your hands free but still meet the needs of a velcro baby!” Kim from Raising a Ragamuffin

I have used a baby wrap this time! I never did with my 2 older children. It is great for getting on with other bits and baby is happy because they are close to you, although getting trickier on my back the heavier Fraser gets! Haha! 

“A baby monitor with screen, I was anxious when the babies were small and this was fantastic for letting me potter around the house while they were napping, with my mind entirely at rest.” Vikki from Family Travel With Ellie

“We loved Ewan the Dream Sheep for white noise. It really helped the little man settle at night.” Emma from Me and B Make Tea

 

“Not quite an item but steady hands, cutting a newborns fingernails is terrifying haha! And a little box of changing stuff in different rooms, nappies, wipes, muslin cloths etc makes life so much easier”. Eileen from 2 Nerds and a Baby

 

” I loved having a baby changing table as it totally helped my sore back plus I had a section so made it so much easier. I got the one that doubles as a set of drawers as well so plenty of space for the babies clothes.” Laura from The Breastest News

 

“For me, My Tommee Tippee perfect prep machine was a life saver! Loved it” Daisy from Daisy & Belle

We absolutely adore our Perfect Prep machine too! This would be top of my list of must haves!! 

“A baby sling. So much comfort for baby and a sanity saver for parents!” Arabella from Exeter Baby Activities

“A dishwasher and Washer/Dryer! One of those robot vacuums would be great too!” Victoria from Lylia Rose

 

“Personally I would say those Finnish baby boxes, a carrier, a good car seat, and some books. We were bought so much as gifts after the boys were born so we could have got away with only buying the bare minimum and big items. The Finnish baby box have everything you need for those first few weeks and I loved baby wearing. It really helped my youngest who had reflux. Having a car seat is essential to get home from hospital and gives a lot of freedom to get out and about once the baby arrives and books for both parents and baby because its important to make “me time” and reading to babies can really help with the bonding process”. Emma from Our Fairytale Adventure

 

“Muslin cloths, they were my ultimate baby item. I remember my mam buying me a pack and I didn’t see why I’d need them but I was proved wrong. They are great as burp cloths, bibs, to wipe up spills and muck, to use as a changing mat when you have to change in an unexpected place, to cover up when breastfeeding if you don’t feel comfortable. They are useful for so many things!” Lauren from Blogger Mummy Lauren

 

“For me, baby wearing was a godsend. We used a Mei Tai carrier which provided the close comfort but allowed you to be hands free at the same time. It’s hands down the best thing that we bought, that and plenty of muslin cloths”. Karina from Mum’s the Nerd

 

“For me it has to be the Angelcare sound and movement monitor. The mat lays under the mattress and detects the smallest amounts of movement and therefore monitors babies breathing. Sometimes babies fall into such a deep sleep their breathing can slow a little. If the monitor does not detect movement for 30 seconds it emits a loud beep to not wake but stir the baby from the deep sleep and start normal breathing. If it continues to not detect movement then the alarm goes off. HAs given me constant peace of mind with my first and now my second and I would not be without it. We have recommended it so many times”. Heidi from Southern Mummy

 

A pram you love. I know its a big investment at the time but you spend so much time pushing it, rocking it, walking with it that its worth investing – and it will last for later children. Its worth getting one which will take the car seat so you don’t have to transfer when they fall asleep”. Naomi from The Organised Life Project

 

A decent pram is another one on my list! We went for the Mothercare Orb this time and have had no issues with it other than converting it from pram to pushchair! I nearly threw it out the window, it was tricky but I got there in the end! 

 

“Muslins (for them) and Wine, big old sense of humour and Mum friends (for you)”. Frances from You Have to Laugh

 

“A stretchy wrap! I had an AMA Wrap and I don’t know how I would have done without it! Hands Free cuddles”. Helen from The Mumatron Blog

 

What would be top of your list of Must Haves?

 

 

 

 

 

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The First 3 Months

My word…. it goes so quickly doesn’t it!!? These first 3 months have flown by!

Fraser hasn’t had the easiest of starts but has still been an absolute dream. He was sleeping 4-5 hours a night from a week old. I, as most parents really love my sleep so have cherished this enormously! We have really been blessed in that respect as our older two children were also very good with their sleep!

 

Now this time around I’ve come across and am struggling with a couple of things I’ve not experienced before!! Reflux and Colic!! Wow! Like babies don’t create enough extra washing without throwing up over 5 different outfits a day! Haha!

It started when Fraser was about 2 weeks old. The vomit!! The sheer amount of baby vomit! HE was pretty much throwing up after every feed! Time to see a doc! The doctor advised us that from the symptoms we had described, Fraser has reflux! Well this was a new one to us! He prescribed Infant Gaviscon which was to be put into every feed. We saw the effects almost immediately, which was great. This lasted 3 whole days then the vomit returned! Back to the docs we went. This time we were advised that it could be an intolerance to the formula so we were prescribed a cows milk free formula. Wow that stuff was gross! It had the consistency and smell of a very thick cheese sauce! *gag* ….. it made absolutely no difference whatsoever and we tried it for the 2 weeks that we were told to so we switched back to his original formula. After a little while the vomiting subsided by itself. We were so relieved. Well…. for a while, until the colic kicked in! Another new thing for us!

 

 

At about 4 weeks old, one particular evening Fraser was VERY upset. He had been fed and changed, I had tried to burp him, nothing. I tried my hardest to comfort him, trying all sorts of positions holding him, walking around with him, over my legs, on my shoulder, in the pram… nope nothing worked, he was screaming the place down like I had never heard before. That kind of scream where their little faces go bright red and you are willing them to take a breath. It was awful and I felt bloody useless. I called 111 for advice because I had tried everything and I just did not know what else to do. They asked me a series of questions and by this point Fraser had been screaming or almost 2 hours solid. They said they were sending an ambulance, because he was so little they didn’t want to take any risks. PANIC MODE!!! I am crap at situations like this and stated crying on the phone, that then made my daughter cry, she’s 14 and was a real rock to me that night. Hubby was at work. The paramedics turned up and checked him over and within 5 minutes of them being there he stopped crying! How typical is that!?? They still wanted him to go to hospital to get checked over. All his stats seemed ok so that was something. Mum in Law came over to sit with the older two and I went with Fraser in the ambulance. Got to children A&E and the nurses done all the checks again, asked me a few questions, weighed him…. they couldn’t find a thing wrong with him! I felt like such an idiot!! They kept reassuring me that I had done the right thing. Just glad he was ok!

We have had so much fun and laughter with this little boy! He’s generally a very happy chappy! His 1st smile made me melt and his 1st proper laugh (a real belly chuckle!) actually made me cry! He’s so funny!

 

We still have the colic and reflux issues but we are battling through, the docs don’t appear to be listening but I’ve made the choice to change his milk to a comfort milk. There does seem to be less vomit but it hasn’t cleared completely. Its good to know that colic and reflux are both things he will eventually grow out of.

 

 

Fraser is also suffering from a touch of Plagiocephaly – Flat Head Syndrome. Another new thing to us!! We are following advise to correct it and it is slowly improving. Resting his head to the opposite side that is affected, holding him more, lots of tummy time, he absolutely loves sitting up and seeing whats going on around him at the moment so we’ve bought him a Fisher Price sit-me-up which he likes to sit in but not for too long. Hopefully it will continue to improve and no further action will be needed. In his cot we also use a BabyMoov Cosy Dream, its like a padded cushion/mat that he sleeps on thats moulded around the head and that helps prevent flat head syndrome too.

 

This boy loves his milk! He is on 8oz bottles 4 times a day… generally 9am – 1pm – 5pm – then 9pm then bath and bed! He sleeps right through now… 10 hours a night!! Very very blessed! I think he will be great by the time is comes to weaning. I’m not sure he will last until the full 6 months and I do really want to hold it off for as long as I possibly can. His older brother was a milk and food lover and used to scream when either had finished as he was enjoying it so much! LOL! I can see Fraser being the same! He already is with his milk!

Unlike his older siblings he really loves his baths! He loves to kick about in the water and loves being washed with lots of bubbles! Baby friendly bubbles of course! The older two used to scream the place down at bath time so this is a refreshing change!

 

So Fraser was 3 months old on the 28th July. He is smiling, laughing, holding toys for a short amount of time, he has discovered his hands, he has almost fully rolled from his back onto his front just one arm got stuck underneath him, he hasn’t managed the other way though just yet. He is vocal and starting to “shout”  especially when excited! He loves to watch the colours on the TV, he adores music!!

Despite all the throwing up he is gaining weight well. As of today he weighs 18lbs exactly! He is going to be a bruiser!!

 

Fraser is going to be such a character I can tell! His 1st 3 months have been great even if a little bit stressful. I can’t wait to see what the next 3 bring!!