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Date – Day 4 – #Blogtober17

 

Day 4 of #Blogtober17 and todays prompt is Date. You can read my other entries so far in the Blog challenge here.

 

 

marriage, date, date night

 

Please excuse the quality of the photo! This was mine and Eds first picture together I think. A couple of months into our relationship. Back in December 2001!!! Yes next week we have been together for sixteen years! Wow thats like… forever! 😀 We have had, like most people do, lots of ups and downs and lots of happy and sad times, lots of rows but here we are SIXTEEN years down the line…. still together, still in love and still going strong. We will be renewing our vows next year on our 10th Wedding Anniversary. I can’t wait!

Anyway back to the prompt in question…. DATE!

married, years, date night

I want to go on a DATE with my Husband. I cannot honestly remember the last time we did! In fact I don’t think we have ever been on one other than our first date which is when we got together! Before this year is out I want a Date Night with Ed. I think we need some us time. Some uninterrupted adult conversation without CBeebies or Disney Junior blaring in the background. Without having to make a bottle. Without having to tell the older two kids to stop arguing. I long for some me and Hubby time. Him not at work, me not surrounded by kids or pots and pans or piles of washing.

I want to walk along with him and hold his hand. I want to look into his eyes over  dinner table and have proper conversations. I want to snuggle up next to him and watch a film.

I love this man so very much!!

 

So Edward!! Where we going on our date?? x

 

 

 

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Renewing our Vows

 

Ed and I met and got together in October 2001! Yes that is almost 16 years together!! That is such a long time to spend with someone! It has been awesome and it has been horrible at times. He won’t mind me saying it and will agree. We have had some very tough times over the years but here we still are going strong.  Three months we had been together when we found out I was pregnant with our first child! Oops! Not planned no but seen as we didn’t know each other very well at that point I was petrified that he would do a runner and I’d be a single parent. Quite the opposite! He was over joyed to find out he was going to be a Daddy! We got a lot of stick from people thinking it was too soon/ things wouldn’t last…. HAHA! Here we are!

We’ve gone on to have 2 more children since and he really is the most awesome Daddy! He isn’t around a huge amount of the time because he works, he works his arse off in fact! Ed has just achieved 15 years service at his job closely followed by a promotion! I am so proud of him for that. He really deserves it. He NEVER takes time off sick even when really is poorly.

So June 2008 we tied the knot, it was a very small affair but was beautiful. We had our 2 children with us and a handful of family and friends. Next year we will be celebrating 10 years of marriage and have decided to renew our vows and this time around we will have our THREE children with us. Our family is complete now and we are stronger than we ever have been so decided it was the perfect time to do it.

 

I loved my dress so much and had so many wonderful comments on it. Truly felt like a princess. I don’t have my dress anymore but would no way fit into it if I did!

 

Collectively we don’t have a huge income so our wedding day was only ever going to be a small affair but that suits us! We don’t have a huge circle of friends to invite to a sit down meal at a fancy venue so we would never have had a celebration like that even if we could afford it. Its just not us.

 

Our Wedding Day was all done on a budget … just over £1000 for the whole day. We are hoping to do the renewal day on the same kind of budget or less really if we can. So the ceremony is already booked at the Registry Office. On our actual 10th Wedding Anniversary but that is as far as we have got so far! I have until June next year and I have spent hours if not days completely lost in Pinterest trying to get some ideas. Seen so many wonderful things I don’t know where to start!

It is likely there may be a series of “Planning” Posts as we head towards our second big day! I can’t wait to share with you. I’m so looking forward to the day and exchanging vows again knowing how far we have come in our relationship, knowing how much our love has grown, how many obstacles we have swerved along our journey! I love this man so very much and am very proud to be his Wife!

 

 

 

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A Mothers Love

My heart is fit to burst with love.

I remember when I was pregnant with Izabel I was excited but scared. Will I be a good Mum? Will I be able to do my very best for her? What if I don’t know what to do and fail as a Mum?

When she was born… wow! The love I felt for her instantly was incredible! Breath taking! I looked down at her tiny face and felt so proud that she was mine! That love is still there, as is the pride but now almost 15 years later it is so so much more. She is good a everything she does, she is kind, caring, loving, even if a little bit stroppy at times (wonder who she gets that from haha!) and she is the most beautiful girl in the whole world! These days I look up to her (she’s 6ft tall!) and feel overwhelmed with love and pride! She puts her all into everything. School, Sport, Art, being a good sister to her 2 little brothers, she helps me out when Ed is at work. She is so amazing with her baby brother, it makes me want to cry every time I see her with Fraser. She is a natural, she feeds and winds him, changes his nappy, makes him smile. Izzy is growing up into a mature, kind, and genuine lady who cares so much for others. There is a special love between us as Mum and Daughter, we are close, she can talk to me about anything and I hope that never changes.

 

Just over 3 years after Izzy was born, Xavier arrived into our lives! I had a boy! I worried that I wouldn’t be able to share the HUGE amount of love I had for Izzy, how could I possibly love another child as much as I love my girl? But again…. as soon as I looked into those tiny eyes I fell head over heels! My heart doubled in size with love! Izzy totally adored her little brother and was amazing from day 1! Xavier has had a tough time over his school years and I fought hard after his Autism diagnosis to get him in the right school, over 3 years it took me! We have had challenging times at home but I done so much research and really understood Xavier. I get him, I know how he works, I know his likes and dislikes. He is such a special boy! He is 11 and is hugely caring, polite and kind. I am so so very proud of all the achievements he has made so far in his life, big and small, each one is special as I know how hard some of them have been for him. He is so loving. When I was recently pregnant he looked out for me lots, was very interested in the baby, kissed my baby bump EVERY day. He was so excited about having a brother! He said he will teach him how to play computer games when he’s older! Haha! Now I was worried, sounds silly as Xavier was so excited about becoming a big brother but the idea of it whilst I was pregnant and then another little person actually being here are 2 very different things. I hoped it wouldn’t turn his world upside down when baby arrived and it hasn’t! Not at all! Xavier loves Fraser so much. I do think he finds him a little boring at the moment as at 9 weeks old, Fraser doesn’t really do much but he does love it when baby smiles at him. I’m so proud of him as he has been through a lot being in 2 mainstream schools and now his amazing Special Needs school. He has coped so well considering and has changed so much, he’s not angry anymore, he rarely kicks off, he’s calm, loving and so bloody clever it scares me! I have such high hopes for his future! He’s  such a gorgeous boy, I love him so very much.

 

Ed and I thought we were done doing our bit for the population!! Alas no! I was on the pill, had endometriosis and ovarian cysts over the years since I had Xavier. So last September when I found out I was pregnant it was such a shock!! A HUGE shock! I was worried as years and years previously we had discussed having one more child but Ed was happy with the 2 we had so wasn’t up for anymore. Obviously after 11 years I had come to terms with the fact that there would be no more and concentrated on bringing up the 2 we had the best we could. I was so worried about telling Ed he was going to be a Daddy again! He took it all in his stride after the initial shock. The kids were bouncing off the walls, they were so excited! Izzy cried and Xaviers eyes were a bit watery! It was such a lovely reaction! I had a terrible pregnancy that threw pretty much everything at me! I panicked that I’d forgotten everything as it had been so long since I had a baby, he is here now and I still feel like a first timer!! Its such a shock to the system after such a big gap! When Fraser was born, when I first set eyes on him I cried! He looked so much like Izzy when she was born! That was the 1st thing I said! “OMG he looks like Izzy!” My heart tripled in size…. bursting with love! Fraser is an absolute joy! Blowing my own trumpet here but Ed and I do make beautiful children! He has slept through 6-7 hours from about a week old. We are having issues with colic which is new to us but its all about research and learning. He’s such a good boy and so smiley and happy!

 

The older 2 absolutely adore him and it makes me so proud to call all 3 of these children mine! I am the luckiest Mother in the world and there is no love in the world like a Mothers Love!

 

 

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It’s the Little Things

……that really mean so much!

Since Xavier joined his amazing new school in April his confidence has grown greatly! It really blows me away. It may only be little things to most people but they are huge to me. He can do up the buttons on his polo shirt…. he can put on his own socks… he eats ham… he actually asked me if he could try a pistachio nut the other day. He is wanting to try new things. This evening I had sweet potato for the first time and he tried a bit and didn’t like it but he just ate it and didn’t run to the bin to spit it out. He is becoming more independent with going to the toilet at home. Yes, he is almost 10 years old but he has dyspraxia which affects his motor skills. He has sensory issues too and his toileting issues have been apparent for many years now. He came home from school last week with a Star of The Week certificate for “talking to an adult when he gets angry or frustrated”. I am so incredibly proud of him!

I have been (still am) really unwell lately with my mental health and other things… too many to list here and the last thing I want to do is bore you haha! Izabel has been offering to do little chores for me at home to take the strain off. I think she sees that I am struggling and is being very grown up and really helping me out. Again it may only be little things like loading or unloading the dishwasher or feeding the cats but it all helps. I cannot believe she will be 13 in a matter of weeks! How on earth am I a mother to a teenager? Where did those years go? She is a good girl, despite her usual hormonal strops and I am incredibly proud of her too! She is growing up to be a very beautiful, kind and caring young lady.

Never take the “little things” for granted. I certainly won’t!